Life is an adventure. Each moment we choose to either take the adventure or stay on the sidelines. In 2009 I embarked on a scary journey, reaching for the next rung, clinging to the sides of what felt like a petrifying slippery stonewall. “Don’t look down, keep your vision forward,” the voice within me kept saying. I continued with a faith that was unstoppable, knowing that the spirit was walking with me, supporting every move I made. At first, I did not pray or l listen. I had lots of pride because I thought I knew everything I needed to know. Then when I tumbled downward and knew I was on a free-fall beyond my control, I called for help… and the hand was there to assist me onward.

So today, as I live on the razors edge, embracing all that life brings me, I stand tall, knowing I am fully supported and all that comes before me is just another opportunity to see the presence of Spirit, to listen – God knows I’m listening – and I will take every leap of faith I must, if God chooses to use me. For I accept to be but a humble vessel for the unlimited power of the Universe.

I don’t want a boyfriend.

I’m looking for someone to walk off into the sunset with and build an amazing life together and I don’t want to be exclusive until that guy shows up.

I certainly don’t want to settle for anyone I think is less than amazing and perfect… for me.

But I often wonder if the man of my dreams proposed tomorrow, would I say Yes?  I don’t know. Not because I wouldn’t love him, because, if he is the man of my dreams, then of course I would. And not because I’m morally opposed to marriage. I’m not.

I just want to check off a few more things on my life to-do list before becoming a married woman. Travel, move a little further in my career, add a bit more to my savings account, flirt with a few more fascinating people, and finally learn how to cook a grandiose dinner… I’ll get there:-).

And it’s not just the single girl bucket list.  Studies are showing getting hitched in your early twenties ups your risk of divorce. Apparently the more years of higher education or life experience a woman has under her belt on her wedding day, the lower the chances that she’ll get divorced… Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards.

I’m sure there is also countless studies to the contrary. But I happen to think 29 is the new 25.

Which is why I love that the most famous bride of the year—and probably the century—was almost 30 when she walked down the aisle.

So many of my friends have changed careers, gone back to school, moved cities, and done complete 180s when it comes to their life plans — and many of them have done it in their late 20s. By 29 I’ve noticed most ladies seem to have a better sense of what they want.

So, thanks Kate for putting off marriage until you’re almost the big 3-0. If you could handle reporters and paparazzi and the Queen of England asking you every two minutes, “When are you getting married”?, I’m sure I can handle a few people asking me the same thing. Including my grandmother’s constant “You know, you’re born with all of the eggs you’ll ever have and you just lose more and more each year.”

And thanks for reminding me – yes, even I sometimes doubt my desire to wait –  that getting married at 29 (or perhaps later) is smart, sexy, and utterly appealing.

How many times have we been challenged by circumstances in our lives? How many times have we cried out loud, “God help me!”? And how many times has Grace stepped in and answered our call?

Everytime we are at the seeming depths of our soul, Grace comes to us in ways that alleviate any turmoil we may be experiencing in our lives. It is this Amazing Grace which aligns us back with ourselves, which steps in and rights our sails. In meeting us where we are Grace allows us to remember who we really are and that we are indeed blessed, regardless of the circumstances. The compassionate nature of spirit soothes our collective wounds, kisses it with divine lips and makes it better.

When we have been touched by Grace, we know it, always.  It  leaves an unmistakable mark on our hearts – softens us, soothes us and leaves us better than it found us.

Pass it on.

Love. So sweet. Like a flowing spring  – a heart-cleansing bath that pours into the breath and onto the page. A reminder of God’s eternal grace. A luxury of consciousness that communes with the divine in the intimacy of the heart space. Whispering from deep unto deep.

Trust. Trust love. Trust God. Relax into knowing that God is all good, all supreme, all love. Open. Give. Open your heart to Divine Connection. Spread your wings. Fly! Don’t be proud in a rigid holding way.

Delight in love. In the divine. Exalt in your consciousness. The beauty of unity. Good everywhere revealing itself as wholeness in rich patterns and simplicity. Trust as a little child who has only known security and closeness and well being. Relax into the warmth, the light massages that let go of all tension, all stress, all pain in my muscles, tendons and joints. Bask in the radiance. Let it flow into the pores of my skin, the tissues, the cells of my body.

Love lives. I welcome it. I am it. Love is at my core. Love vibrates all around me. I am ready to absorb and radiate it. I delight and trust in love.

Love is around me. It billows like sweet mists in the morning, life breaths of pure air. My relationships are meaningful, authentic, blissful.

Life joyfully shares it’s laughter, joy, givingness and well-being.

Gratitude is an awareness that we are the recipients of goodness, the fundamental goodness of the universe – which is always moving in our direction. And when goodness arrives at the door of our consciousness, we are moved to share what we have received with others, accelerating the cycle of gratitude in our lives and in the lives of others. Out of our gratitude flows creativity, compassion, generosity, courage, trust, peace, joy, selflessness, humility, bliss.  We see the infinite hand orchestrating Life, loving us, just as we are.

So today I’m choosing to practice the art of gratitude. I am doing as my good friend John Carter suggested – keeping a journal by my bathroom mirror, so every morning before I brush my teeth I will write 5 reasons to be grateful. And as I complete my day in the evening I will take time to write 5 more reasons I am grateful. Then I will stretch myself to see the gratitude in everything – to reflect on my day and write one situation, person, place or thing that caused me some sort of emotional disruption or aggravation and turn within, asking, “What has this experience taught me? What have I learnt about myself?” And I will write in my journal what  insights have come forth, starting with the statement, “I am grateful for this experience because I have learnt….”

As I flex my gratitude muscle this month, I hope to strengthen my spiritual vision, truly seeing the gift in everything. Because I know, I have so much to be grateful for.

If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment

–Henry David Thoreau

The emergence into human life form is a painful process from which no one escapes.

Evidently pain is an intended part of being human. The way in which life begins is a blueprint for the way life operates at its finest. The initial feeling of pain – in labor – is an indication of a change in course. Something magnificent, which we have called forth, is about to emerge. The painful place is simply a request for our full undivided attention – to be aligned with the creative process, allowing newness to appear.

We do not know the timing and we do not know how. We can’t control how it all takes place. We are simply the hosts, an honorable place to have. We are co-creators with Creative Intelligence. It will guide us through. Humanity is destined to continuously give birth to newness through our dreams and desires.

And in the process, blessings don’t always show up as you might expect, but when we perceive experiences from the lens of gratitude, we are never victims.

We try to avoid discomfort. We want life to feel familiar, whether or not our experience serves our higher good. But the divine is perpetually orchestrating something even more wondrous than the human mind can imagine.  Yet if we remain confined in our sameness, how will we evolve? We can look back through our history and know, without question, humankind is intended to evolve.

In life, one should always expect the unexpected without labeling it good or bad. It is simply unforseen and typically has many hidden treasures waiting to unfold. By breathing with the painful shifts in course, we attract the goodness that is our birthright and life becomes the adventure it is meant to be. We then enjoy the little surprises along the way. Inside of painful discomfort lives the birth of our dreams.

It occurs to me that time doesn’t care if you’re tired or poor or weak or unready or unwilling or simply late; the moments of your life are passing you by regardless. — Kalanzi Joseph Kajubi Ssekyimpi Ssekibakatte

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The majority of the time, what you are finding in your life is a reflection on what your mind-set is focused on. Your state of mind and your focus determines what you find in your life. If you focus on obstacles, you will find obstacles. But focus on opportunities, and you will find them!

To grow your level of success you must change your filter process of situations and your mind-set. It is true of the saying “What you put in, is what you get out” in regards to your mind. Having a positive mental attitude in all situations is key and vital to having successful thoughts, successful actions and successful solutions to any problems that may arise in any situation.

In fact, the secret to success is not to try to get rid of or shrink from your problems. The secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem.

Those of you that have read the “Law of Attraction Science” will be familiar with this concept.

Success in our everyday lives is dependent on your thoughts and frame of mind, whether you are a sales person, a director, a stay at home mother, an internet entrepreneur a scientist or even a PA, the outcome of your day in terms of meeting objectives and long term goals is dependent the concept of attraction science.

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• Practice optimism: Today, whatever anyone says is a problem or an obstacle, reframe it into an opportunity.
• Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t have. If you don’t appreciate what you’ve got, you won’t get any more.
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I’ve made many mistakes. Found myself in the pits. Felt scared, penniless and naive.

I was furious at all the people who had “lied” to me or left me alone when they could have helped me, but mostly I was furious with myself. I thought I had left victimhood behind long time ago.

Then I started mulling over the word victim. What I wanted was to be a victor. It’s just a tiny shift – 2 letters. The little im – I am – needed to change to or. Or is a choice. Something I have to consciously choose. And so, with no money to my name, I focused on the choices I had in every moment to recognize the Ors in my life – to be happy or sad, fearful or secure, disappointed or expectant. So I choose to be a victor… to see and expect the goodness of God.

Suffering is voluntary – controlled by free will. Every false belief of anger, shame, fear, low self-worth, or low self-esteem is a voluntary belief made for the purpose of receiving more of the same in a variety of forms. These manmade concepts surface from situations, events and experiences fromt he past that live in memory; many from childhood. When past hurts surface in our consciousness, we become consumed with sadness and accept the invitation to identify ourselves as the victim. It is important for us to remember that this form of suffering is voluntary. We need to find a way out of that abyss when the wounded child that lives within us surfaces in consciousness and we feel misery.  Remember the law of life supports us and is our source of goodness, compassion and love.

Equally important, activating the tool of forgiveness transmutes all seeming conditions that attempt to seperate us from our true selves. Forgiveness gives us freedom and fuels our choice to live in peace, abundance and well being. It’s our responsibility to choose to be fully engaged in life – in the now of right now – our conscious relationship with the present is the pathway to freedom from all forms of suffering. It gives us clarity to see what we do with all our resource – talents, skills, money – is made sacred by the consciousness in which we use it so we are living in the overflow.