Life can be stressful so make time for yourself today and everyday… you deserve it!
A huge part of being human is the emotional turbulence we all face from time to time, from exciting emotional highs to those unbearable low moments. As we grow into adulthood, it gradually dawns on us that life can be a daily battle which leads to stress.
A 2008 survey conducted by AP on college students showed that a whopping 80% experienced stress on a daily basis. If not dealt with aggressively, these stresses can lead to a sense of hopelessness and even psychological conditions like depression.
As someone who has suffered from a bout of stress that left me feeling depressed, I know that every stressed person is trapped in a tragic cycle of self-blame, self-pity and a lack of will to live life fully. I came to the realization that getting to a point in your life where you can adequately address these issues is the most significant step you can take towards recovery.
Most depressed people will beat themselves up with a myriad of questions in a bid to understand why they are going through such an experience. These questions are summed up as follows:
- Why now? Just as opportunity and good fortune meets us unexpectedly, so does calamity and misfortune. Life is known to throw complications our way when we least expect them. The most important thing to remember in such a case is that the timing does not matter. It may have happened a month ago or a month from the present. Hold the bull by its horns and work on resolving your issues today, rather that falling into the abyss of self-pity and despair.
- Why me? We ask ourselves this question even though we invariably know that we all must suffer some hard ships in life. Posed differently, the question reads ‘what did I do to deserve this?’ It basically describes a feeling of life’s unfairness toward you even though you may be undeserving of life’s lemons. It is important to realize that calamity is no respecter of persons and it can befall anyone. Therefore, rather than thinking irrationally, focus more on dealing with the problem.
- Where do I go from here? Some calamities like the loss of a loved can leave one feeling too lost to move on with life. Some people are unable to pick themselves up and opt to stay trapped in their hurt and loss because they are too weakened emotionally to get out of it. How you react to what life thrown your way makes all the difference in determining whether your problems will overcome you or you will overcome them. Begin by realizing that not letting go is unhealthy, then make a plan on how you will move to where you ought to be. Determination and perseverance is key if you are to defeat hopelessness and depression.
While psychology is not my field of expertise, my own life experiences led me to share my thoughts on this issue which affects us all. In conclusion, I would like to share these three tips as a summary of how fight the stress and fear which can ultimately lead to despair, dejection and despondence:
Fill your days and nights with as many positive experiences as you can – find opportunities to laugh, spend time with friends or do the simple things you love.
Always remember that life is subject to change, and with that, bad times will ultimately pass away. Let time heal your wounds.
Ask for help. After all, it is said that a problem shared is a problem half solved.