You deserve to be loved the way you love others. You deserve to feel seen.
You deserve to sleep beside someone who does not try to quiet your heartbeat, or your passion, or the way you show up in this world. You deserve to be with the kind of person who makes you their favorite thing, the kind of person who loves all of your twists and does not try to untie them.
You deserve to love someone who does not judge you. You deserve to love someone who sees you for all of you and seeks to understand you. You deserve someone who supports your direction, who motivates, encourages and inspires you, always encouraging you to keep going. You deserve someone who appreciates you. You deserve someone who loves you whole-heartedly and with conviction. You deserve to love someone who sees you are powerful beyond measure, jagged edges and all. You deserve someone who sees your flaws and scars and chooses to stand beside you, fighting with you and for you. You deserve someone who is sure of you. You deserve someone who believes in you. You deserve someone who wants to see you happy.
However, you also deserve to be this person for yourself. Your capacity to love yourself, to be alone and be your own foundation is going to directly reflect the way you love these people when they come into your life. When you know yourself, when you stand up for your heart, you do not bankrupt who you are just to keep half loves in your life. When you love yourself, finding love becomes less about filling a void. Love is not about possession, obsession and dependence. Love transforms into something that can be fully, and deeply appreciated and felt, because you are not afraid that it’s loss will destroy you. You are not afraid of being without it, because you will always have yourself.
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